Living on a dream



I’m Parina Subba Limbu, the founder/director of Dristi Nepal.
And this is what I’ve to say.

Life never presents you easy roads. Any path you take ahead has its reasons behind.

Some make decisions in life based upon rational inference while others opt to take the instinctive route.

For me, the most important decision in my life came through my sheer commitment. And, trust me, trying to push yourself ahead leveraging on your own past sufferings and predicament is a draining endeavor. But, when honest dedication and deeply rooted passion are by your side, stubborn it may sound, but nothing seems impossible.

My journey to become an established women activist had a fairy tale start. The dire things that I witnessed during my youthful days, the chaotic atmosphere that surrounded me and the mental and physical trauma I went through had left me shattered and scarred. Under such circumstances, a bleak ray of hope and a vaguely ludicrous dream to achieve something for my fellow sisters who were dwelling on the downside of advantage, made me go the extra mile. To see such dream get a miraculous conversion opportunity overwhelmed me to the fullest.

I wondered then and I still wonder now about those things that made my friend/advisor Lee FitzGerald see something promising in me. The support and concern shown by her, back in those early days, helped me immensely while carving out a proper shape to my noble aspirations. Jake Epperly and Ekta are the two other names that I recall vividly whose influences have always given me the zeal to work harder. My sincere gratitude is with you all. Remembering the context in those days, to dream about serving for the treatment of drug use and HIV/AIDS in Nepal was considered a sin. Social prejudice, lack of family support and career uncertainties hovered around you everywhere.

My errand to uplift the life status of my fellow sisters facing problems related with substance abuse, domestic violence and peer pressure was bogged down several times. My efforts and performance were closely scrutinized on every footstep that I took. People’s stereotypical judgments often slowed down my acceleration towards my work. However, against all odds, I never let my progress come to a complete halt. With the unconditional support from few acquaintances and a spirited team, Dristi Nepal got the spark that it needed.

It’s often said that, to reach the top isn’t the toughest task but to sustain and retain your spot is. Establishing Dristi Nepal was definitely my dream come true. But I wanted to dream bigger. I wanted the organization to contribute to the social atmosphere in our nation. I wished to change people’s way of thinking towards drug using and HIV infected women. I wanted the mass population to realize the fact that women trapped under these pitfalls cannot be by any means termed as criminals. I hoped the society accepted this as an illness or even as a helpless compulsion for many women in the country.

To accomplish these intrinsic desires, I needed to be strong, focused and motivated towards my field of work. To bounce back from the days of adversity and regain my stable composure, I had to become resilient, both emotionally and professionally. Now, after all these years, when I look back, I always get a complacent feeling that I managed to pull out all the required characters in me. To be an activist wasn’t my innate tendency. In fact before being associated with Dristi Nepal, I didn’t know what activism was or what an activist had to do. But soon after undertaking the responsibility and accountability of an entire institution, thoughts related with women activism got connected to me. Eventually, it magnified to a whole new level.The prevailing dreadful scenario and lack of concern reflected by authoritative figures made me get into the line of activism.

Meanwhile, at that time, the challenge ahead of me was to do justice to my dual role. I had to fill in the shoes, both as an activist and as a leader. According to my understanding, activism is more of an individualistic effort where one can constantly advocate for different issues irrespective of many constraints. Whereas, leadership is a collective approach that can only succeed with open acceptance and support from the team members. And to put forward an honest opinion, I’ve always considered myself as an activist more than anything else. My story doesn’t end here.

In fact I believe this is my starting point.

Seeing and feeling the sufferings and pain enforced upon women all across the country throughout the past decade, I know there is a lot that I need to contribute in the years to come. My own experiences in life have been my biggest strengths that drive me to move ahead. The amount of support and undying love that I’ve received from my fellow coworkers and well-wishers has given me the sense of wonderment and regeneration in my life.

My visions are the derivatives of my dream. Realizing this, I know I shouldn’t stop dreaming.

Dristi Nepal has immeasurably helped me in achieving my dreams. I owe a lot to this institution. In my coming days, I long to establish a shelter home for all kind of women being traumatized by the wrath of stigma and discrimination in the society. To live in a ‘stigma and discrimination free’ society is in the top of my wish list.

My journey has just begun.

Parina Subba Limbu 2013 Social Development Award Winner

Website of Dristi Organization : http://www.dristinepal.org/portal/
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Dristi Nepal

Ready, Willing and Able

« Youth is not a troublemaker. Youth is a change maker. »
says Juju Kaji, a Nepali social worker.
2012. At one difficult time of national history, Nepali people face new challenges every day.
And still, youth is in the game